Last week, we received a letter in the mail from the Police Department. It was a notice that a sex offender was moving into the neighborhood. Right there in front of me was his picture, his description (born in 1975, blonde hair, etc.), the date he was released (end of Sept.), and the crime he committed (rape - second degree). It even says that the victim was 15 years old.
My heart broke when I opened it. For the rest of his life, this man will be known by his neighbors as the rapist. I think that it is wrong that we know this. There are many levels on which this seems wrong to me.
Let me say that I do not intend to trivialize or diminish the harm that done to this victim of second degree rape (probably statutory). However, why do I need to know this? This is not a case of pedophilia. I understand that the overwhelming evidence is that a pedophile cannot be rehabilitated. This case is a rape. As terrible as it is, rape is a crime of power. It is not a sickness.
Also, I know our tendancy as humans is to demonize individuals that scare us. Having the neighbors look at you with contempt must be detrimental to the rehabilitation or healing of this man. Surely, that will only reinforce what the courts have already told him. He's a rapist. That's all he is.
In fact, it's already happened. Not three days after we received the letter, a copy was stapled to every power pole in the neighborhood. Below the picture and description, someone had written, "Are your children safe?" Could we be any more cruel? Every time this man walks out to get the mail, he sees these signs. Actually, he
saw these signs. I've taken them down.
We do not live in a Christian nation. If we did, instead of putting signs up to scare my neighbor away, we would invite him to share life with us. In that way, we could offer justice and grace. We could hold him accountable and offer opportunity for healing.
As it is now, we simply tell the monster to go away.
Help me with this. Please.